Saturday, September 27, 2014
Communication Style
The two persons I chose to evaluate me were my friend and my husband. We all had similar scores for communication anxiety and listening skills. My husband’s score placed me in the moderate category for verbal aggressiveness, which was the same category that I placed myself in. However my friend’s score placed me in the significantly verbally aggressive category by one point. I was surprised that she perceived me in this way. I do not consider myself to be so. I always try to consider others and not hurt their feelings as much as possible. If anything I try to attack ideas and not the individual who puts forth the idea. I suppose my friend either perceives me differently than I perceive myself or perhaps she made a mistake when she was filling out the evaluation. Whatever the case, I need to ensure that I am not verbally aggressive in my dealings with others. It can be damaging to any relationship, and especially to any bonds that I may have formed with my students. I learned that communication is truly a two-way street. It is not only about what you put out there or what you say but it also involves how others perceive your actions and words.
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Karina,
ReplyDeleteI evaluated myself as a 70 on the verbal aggressiveness test. I thought I was answering, for example, as if I never insult others. Somehow I still was scored as significantly aggressive. Perhaps you friend thought of the questions as I did and because of this score you a little higher. She would probably tell you that she feels you are usually kind with her because I think I am usually kind with others and I still got a higher score.
I think that sometimes our close friends may perceive us as more aggressive than we really are because we are in a relaxed and comfortable situation. My husband rated me as more aggressive, I think because I am more aggressive with him. I learned that possibly I need to curb this and become more mindful.
ReplyDeleteKarina,
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading the results to your communication styles tests. My boyfriends answers were the same as mine, however, he sees that I show higher levels of anxiety. I found that interesting that your friend perceived you to have higher verbal aggression. Do you think in your form of communication she sees any nonverbal cues that come off as aggressive?